I copied these from Mike’s. And let’s see how many did Dash score, based on the time when we were still dating, 1996 - 2007.
1. His friends are married
If you are interested in a guy,
check out his friends’ left hands to see if they have wedding rings on.
Research has show that if his friends are already married, he’s more
likely to get married. If all of his friends are still single and in
the "party-with-the-boys" phase, that’s a bad sign.
Dash score: 0
Description: He was still studying and none of his friends were married during Form5, Matriculation and in Uni. Which idiots can get married in such young age?
2. He’s financially secure
Studies
show that men who own a home are more marriage-ready. A man who is
generally financially stable, and has his ducks in a row, feels
marriage is a practical next step for him.
Dash score: 0
Description: He was still studying and 100% relying on MARA loan to fill up his tummy everyday. And most of the time, I was the one paying for meals since MARA gave ciput-er than PTPTN.
3. He pursues you
The
guy who is commitment-ready is going to initiate doing things with you.
If you’re emailing him and he takes days to email you back, if you have
to text him to find out where he is, if you are always calling him,
you’re chasing a man who’s probably not marriage-material.
Dash score: 0
Description: I pursued him and finally tackled him during high school. We never email each other but I mailed him every week, called him every night, leave a message by his bicycle, been in all his classes, moved him in front of my house, been his colleague, currently using Friend Finder to get his location. I do everything. He’s just being, him.
4. He’s willing to wait
Yes,
research is telling us what we already know: If a guy gets to know you
before getting intimate, he is more likely to commit.
Dash score: 0
Description: We get to know each other in 5days in a row. But we were still under 18 at that time; prematures and no money. We had to wait.(Refer to no.10)
5. He watches DVDs with you when you’re sick
Taking
care of you when you’re sick shows that this guy isn’t just in it for
the fun and sex. If he wants to be with you in bad times, it’s a sign
he’s in it for the long haul.
Dash score: 0
Description: I take care of myself when I was (really) sick. He usually went to work. But if I was not sick and just need MC, he will do the same. So that we can enjoy the fun together.
6. He gets to know your friends and family
A
guy who is thinking long-term wants to truly get to know you. Seeing
you interact with your family and friends helps him learn where you
come from and more about who you are. The flip side of it is that he
will also want you to get to know him! He’ll want to see if you fit in
with his family and friends. A guy who keeps you separate from the
important people in his life is just playing around.
Dash score: 0
Description: I take this step much much ahead in front of him. He’s just, shy.
7. He says, "we" instead of "me"
When
he switches from "me" to "we", that’s a sign he’s committing to you at
a deeper level. If your guy is all, "I", "me", and "my" instead of "we"
and "us" in conversations after you’ve been dating a while, his mindset
is still in single guy mode.
Dash score: 0
Description: We use "ayang", "sayang", "awak", "saya", "orang".
8. He’s not afraid of compromise
A
commitment-ready guy is going to ask your opinion, consult you about
decisions he needs to make, and has the ability to meet you half-way. A
bull-headed guy who needs everything his way or it’s the highway, isn’t
ready for the compromise that’s naturally part of a mature relationship.
Dash score: 0
Description: He’s too afraid to make decisions because he thinks he always made a wrong one. Which then forcing me to manage them for him.
9. He doesn’t need excuses
Commitment-phobic
guys always have an excuse about why they can’t be with you on Saturday
night, why they didn’t call, and why they aren’t ready for a
relationship right now. A commitment-ready guy doesn’t need excuses, he
just needs you.
Dash score: 0
Description: Why he can’t be with me on Saturday night? - because we just get back from studying/ dating from Saturday morning/ working. Let him rest. Why didn’t he call? No time/ credit. He has he own reason-lah. He is a HUMAN.
10. He likes being in a long-term relationship
Some
men like being in a monogamous relationship and some don’t. The sooner
you realize and accept this the better. If he complains all the time
about needing space, treats you like a giant burden instead of a gift,
and keeps talking about taking things slow, he’s telling you he’s not
ready for a commitment. On the other hand, if he’s done with the party
scene, enjoys your "couple time" together, and has a strong sense of
family, you’ve found a commitment-ready guy.
Dash score: 0
Description: We have to wait for 11years to get the green light from his father. Along that 11years, he never give any complains such as stated above. If only we had all the money and the permission plus a prematures thinking, I will marry him the day after I tackled him in school. Hahaha..
I am glad I’m not dating him anymore (I know he’s not reading this). He’s a part of me now. hehe..
Things changed. People evolved.
And Mike, good luck!
